If we want to our lives to reflect more of what we want, we we also want to consider how well we are aligning our thoughts with the objectives and desires that are most important to us.
For real gains to happen, we need to eliminate conflicts between how we think and feel, and what we want.
A somewhat oversimplified example: a manager desires more productivity in his department, yet believes (quite intensely) that most employees of subordinate level are incompetent. This conflict of thinking vs. desire will generate stress.
In turn, the stress may cause miscues and subtle messages of failure from the manager to his team1
, increasing the probability of his team suffering further productivity drops—not to mention the negative effect on mood and overall wellbeing of the manager himself.
The solution? The choice is a highly personal one, but if the overarching desire is to reduce stress, enjoy a greater level of inner harmony, and enhance results, then our manager must either choose a new team, or begin to look for and nurture competency in his existing one.
Regardless, in this case, a choice of more successful beliefs and thoughts more aligned with his desire for a a high-performing team are his best course. If the manager were to hire a new team, and yet stick to his original negative beliefs about incompetency, he would continue to look for trouble, and these beliefs would manifest in everything from his hiring practices, to his treatment of a new team. The Life Alignment approach is covered in detail in all Success Waypoint workshops,
and in Mark Petruzzi's individual coaching sessions. Coaching clients are encouraged to take the Via Character Strengths
assessment and obtain a Character Strengths Profile as part of their coaching experience, since a knowledge of character strengths is useful in Life Alignment practice.