How We Give Away Self-Leadership



My self-leadership is self-authority—my power to author my life, from the inside out.  It's my freedom to make choices that make sense to me, regardless of outside influence. This doesn't mean that I don't factor in consensus belief, or that I dismiss what others think. It does mean that when I'm on my game, the buck stops with me, and I like it that way.

How do we give our leadership away? Let us count the ways:

  • To doctors, lawyers, scientists, pills and diet books, and experts on TV and other media...
  • To our spouse, our friends, our kids, and unwritten family rules...
  • To clients, bosses, co-workers, company culture...
  • To religious leaders, anti-religious leaders, political ideas, fashion trends, and even the weather...
  • False or limiting beliefs and cognitive distortions.
  • You name it.
We live in a world pulls us from our center with a powerful, seductive gravity of common thought.

Degrees, certifications and titles are all products of some amount of consensus agreement and couldn't exist without it. We invest our power in pills and concoctions, and "proven" science (I once read that only 1 in 3 people have the predicted reaction to any pharmaceutical. Advil is a miracle drug for me, and does nothing whatsoever for my wife).

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